Quote: Originally posted by The Creeper
^I'm not exactly the eldest, but, as I have only found out I actually have an older sister last year, I can consider myself like that. And my parents always tended to put all responsibility related to my little brother on MY shoulders. "Take him here, take him there", always the same shit, which made me hate my brother, really. I wish he never was born. I mean, I was never asked if I wanted a sibling. I was perfectly happy until that little brat came along.
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Interesting to hear you say that. Maybe that's how my eldest sister views me? We've never gotten along. My parents did seem to always throw me on her shoulders as well, when I was 5 years old and just starting school, my parents would leave it to her to give me a bath, and she would just say the nastiest things while doing it, and pinch my skin if I was fidgety. It had gotten to a point where, when my parents asked her to bathe me I'd pretend I was throwing up in the toilet so that she wouldn't do it, although she wasn't stupid, and neither was I very clever.
Earlier this year we got into a huge argument that involved her throwing me to the ground and yelling about how our parents got divorced because I was born (my parents first divorced while my mom was pregnant with me), and that she wished I had went ahead and slit my wrists (I suffered from severe depression after our parents 2nd divorce). My sister has said the nastiest things to me, and when she gets in arguments with one of my other sisters, they're always trivial but when she gets in an argument with me, she ALWAYS takes it way too seriously, and yells and gets in my face. Growing up we've never gotten along, and I really do feel like she hates me for some personal reason, and I mean literally hates me!
Quote: Originally posted by PixCii
Dreamy, I may be the youngest sibling in my family, but it's clear to me that I'm the one who always gets the expectations put upon me. My brother is still treated like an only child sometimes, spoiled beyond belief with $2000 Macbooks just because my parents are feeling generous one weekend, whereas I paid for my laptop entirely out of my own money. I think it differs from family to family. I carry all of the high expectations on my shoulders.
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PixCii we definitely have a lot in common when it comes to our siblings. I'm the 3rd of 6 siblings, and as far back as I can remember my eldest sister has ALWAYS been at the heart of nearly all of our family feuds. She's very good at telling victim stories to make herself look like such the damsel in distress, and she gets my parents to do things for her this way. After she got pregnant and dropped out of college, they bought her a ridiculously overpriced apartment in Upper East Manhattan, she lived their for no longer than 3 months before she "didn't want an apartment, she wanted a house in California", so she was given my mom's old house after my mom moved to Santa Monica, and my parents continue to pay the bills, while my sister remains jobless. She had a job at McDonalds once and quit because "it hurt her back to stand up for long hours, and the smell of cooking burgers made her nauseous." (Oh please, give a sista a break!

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I feel as if my parents were definitely more strict on me than my older two siblings, more-so after I went through depression. My eldest sister always seemed to get away with a lot more than me and my other sisters. However, I'm not really sure about this, because I can recall once when I was 8 years old, my sister had gotten in trouble for something, and my dad took her upstairs by her arm, and to this day my other sister and I swear that he spanked her, although we can never be sure. She did say once though that he would hit her all the time for things, but this is the same girl who has told countless lies to make herself seem like a victim, I can never be sure if she's telling the truth or not, she'll say anything to make our parents look bad, or me, look bad.
Quote: Originally posted by Geah
Short answer: In my family, yes, first born is deffinately treated the hardest.
Long answer:
I'm the eldest of three, and being first born deffinately had a lot more crap thrown on me than my other two siblings have ever had to deal with. I guess being the oldest, you're the first one to go through school and so you're the first to get the expectations, and your folks (generally!) learn by watching you grow up and so either become stricter or easier on the next child if it works better.
With my childhood (oh how short that was) my parents were constantly fighting until they finally divorced in 2000, then we went through a custody blood bath, two cases of kidnapping and all sorts of other fun stuff. I was always the one to take the hits, even from the age of 6 I was the one looking out for and protecting my sister and brother. Both my parents blamed me for everything, never my siblings, they treated me as their adult confidant, used me as the messenger to be abusive towards the other, yada yada. While I don't wish either of my siblings being the oldest and so having to go through what I did, it would be much more pleasant in general if I wasn't the oldest.
Coming forward to now though, my father (the only one i still speak to) seems to be using me as a role model for my siblings seeing as I'm living away from them and making my own way - weird for Dad to treat me as such when i'm the one who "failed completely" by leaving school ..lol
Wow, big response :D
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My parents divorced twice, once in 1992 while my mom was pregnant with me, (which is why I'm the only one of my siblings to have her maiden name). They got back together less than two years later, and divorced again in 2005. Hmm, I never really thought about my sister being used as a "messenger" for my mom and dad to continue fighting, and I really can't say if my parents were hard on my sister when I was really young, because we have a big age gap, and I can't really remember or didn't really think about it. But even after my parents had got back together, they were never much of a happy couple, and BOTH of my sisters did always seem to look out for me, although my 2nd eldest sister and I get along 100 times better then my eldest sister and I.