I'm so sorry you're going through this.

I'm not comparing your situation to what we've been through, nor am I offering any kind of 'legal' advice, I'm just saying.

Dingus was in the military before I met him. There was another person who had the same name, rank, went to the same places, stayed at the same places, shared a birthday, ect... The difference between Dingus and this other person is their social security number. The difference there is the 2 middle digits are flipped.

This other person for a number of years caused Dingus a lot of problems both while he was in the military and after he left. This person almost got Dingus kicked out of the military because he was doing things that he shouldn't have been. When his paycheck was gone, he then had Dingus' check deposited into his account and so on.

Post military life, one morning I got a phone call from some insurance company claiming that Dingus was in a accident. After some prodding, the insurance person revealed to me that this accident happened in a completely different state on the same day that Dingus was at work all day. The insurance guy kept insisting that somehow Dingus was leaving home, flying to a state in the middle of the country, then flying home on a daily basis and I had no clue that this was happening.

Long story short, I finally just told the guy to run the correct social security number and he would find who he was looking for. I never heard from that person again. I don't know the status of this other person these days, but we don't play around with it. I stay on top of financial stuff anyway, but now I do so with even more purpose. We have identity theft insurance that allows us to block our credit report so if somebody tries to take out a credit card, car loan or whatever in our name, there is going to a problem when there is a attempt to run a credit check. Identity theft insurance doesn't prevent identity theft, but if does happen, we won't be forced to pay a lawyer to deal with it because that is part of what we're already paying for.

Is there any chance there could be identity theft going on? It might be worth looking into.

@GC Sadly not one of those kind of situations. Husband was stopped 5 months ago because he was driving a car that matched the description of a car in some horrible crime. They arrested him and kept him overnight in a cell which was literally terrifying for him (and me, because I had no idea where he was. He had gone out for milk and bread and never returned). Anyway, after I told the police he had been with me all day, his phone GPS thing showed he had been home all day, and the neighbours saw his car in the drive all day. He was released. We put in a complaint because... it was literally insane...?? Also we weren't fully sure the crime actually happened for various reasons. We were basically told "we followed procedures. Sorry if it traumatised you but too bad" and that was that. We had to fight to get our car back because it had been impounded "for evidence" but was luckily returned the next day because charges were dropped. They lost his phone and didn't return it for 2 weeks. It was a whole shit show. At no point were drugs mentioned outside of the routine drug test.


Now all of a sudden, during that police search he was 2.5x over the legal limit for Cannabis use and was "in possession of class B drugs" (not specified. But I guess Cannabis?) Which doesn't make sense because he was with me in the house the whole day up until 5 minutes before. I think I would notice if he was high, and it would be impossible to get THAT high in the minutes between him leaving the house and him being arrested at the bottom of our street.

So yeah. Very confusing and scary. I don't think we're gonna be able to sort it because I don't trust the police. It all seems really dodgy. If he pleads his case he's gonna sound like some kind of tinfoil hat lunatic. Like how do you prove you weren't high when the police are saying a drug test said you were? How do you prove you don't have drugs in your car when they've claiming you did? Wtf?

I don't know anything about what police do for drug testing. I'm guessing it wasn't a blood test?

I had a problem with a police officer about a year after we bought the house. Keep in mind that it wasn't my local police dept doing this, it was the next town over.

A officer called and started giving me the third degree about how I was littering. When asked what I 'littered' and where, I was told I tossed a used dishwasher in a dumpster of local convenience store. He then went on and told me that they were holding our mail, how we were going to be fined and all this other crap. I told the officer that while the house did come with a dishwasher, it was broken and sitting outside which at the time it was because our plumber uninstalled and removed it. When I told the cop on the phone to come see where my dishwasher was, he declined.

Two days later, Dingus and I went to the police station and asked for our mail. We weren't willing to be late with bills over something we didn't do. We were given a stern "No!" so we said, okay, we'll let the postal inspectors handle the problem then as there was no reason to hold our mail.

Next day the phone rang, it was who I call to this day Officer Blowhole or the cop that called and went up one side of me and down the other. He was calling to apologize and explain what was going on, but he didn't do so out of the kindness of his heart. First he called Dingus and apologized to him. Dingus told him that I was the one that needed the apology not him as he wasn't home when the whole thing happened. Anyway...

Officer Blowhole went on to explain that he knew it wasn't us and that they were not in fact holding any of our mail. Instead he was looking for information about a person that lives up the street. He apologized and the last words I've heard from him was "Oh yeah, don't tell my supervisor about this" as he was hanging up the phone.

Less than 6 months later, I had a IRS agent banging on my door accusing us of not paying taxes. After a brief discussion about mailing addresses and places of employment, the jerk from the IRS left with no apology as he too decided it would be more fun to flash his stupid badge in my face instead of the people up the street ( the same people that were littering) that were not paying their taxes. They were not paying their personal taxes nor their property taxes as I looked it up.

Needless to say, if we didn't need a roof over our heads and we hadn't gone through so much BS to buy this house, we would have sold it and moved because by that time, I was over it. We haven't had any of these kinds of issues since then, but I haven't forgotten about them either.

I realize that none of this helps your situation other than perhaps the advice to try to keep your cool. I know it isn't easy, but if it is a officer being a PITA for whatever reason, allowing emotions take over doesn't help. There are cops in our local police dept that I don't like. It isn't because they've ever done something to me, they have a arrogant air about them that rubs me the wrong way. If they give me the side eye because they're in a mood, I give it back or smile at them. If I'm not doing anything, they have zero reason to be giving me the stink eye.

Something tells me I will be paying a down payment on a pair of eyeglasses 👓 🤓 and I might buy a pair in chartreuse.

Woke up at 5.
Took a morning nap.
Heated the remaining portion of a baguette.
Ate said baguette with butter.
Got paid.
Wrote out the checks for my dues.
Wrote out the down payment on my eyeglasses.
Shopped at A2Z Mart and the XMONDO online boutique.
Got dressed.
Went to Dollar Tree. (Nothing new)
Ate at Taco Bell.
Tooled Around.
Had Chinese food from the local restaurant in my area.
Took my laxative powder...

...and I am desperate to feel better. I really don't want any colonoscopies.

P.S. They know how much crap I consume in terms of food quality.

You could perhaps try to eat a more healthy diet, it really does make a difference to how your body works and how you feel! I found that sugar was the main problem for me.

Been at work. My brain hurts (not the same as a headache), and my social cup was overflowing only a few hours into the workday.

Just need some peace and quiet (not too much of that at work ). Enjoying the peace and quiet of a SILENT phone *makes shifty-eyes at my phone - don't you dare!* because the work phone was howling all day, although not quite as bad as yesterday.

Lately, our fridge hasn't been keeping anything in the crisper...crisp. My vegetables have been delivered to me recently in terrible, inedible condition to start and they end up after a day, going bad.

I also have been eating less crap in the past few days. I have been under stress and my stomach hurts.

Try a different supplier, sounds like bad quality food. I don't have a crisper in my fridge, I can still keep veggies fresh for more than a day. Check that your fridge is the correct temperature. What do you like to eat at home?

Our grocer is the only game in town with the freshest vegetables in the immediate area, but the staff is not able to pick out the best produce.

I would eat more vegetables, yet the fridge is actually breaking down. This fridge's light had broken and was replaced with one my father rigged up by a former employer's merchandise.

I don't normally have the acumen to fix appliances. Electronics maybe, but not appliances.

Currently trying to switch to plant based foods and lean protein. I also am trying to switch to low sugar\keto friendly options if I want something sweet.

Currently researching sugar substitutes derived from plant sources like allulose from figs.

I am also aware of the rule of "If you can't pronounce the ingredients and\or they make up the majority of the list of ingredients, don't consume it!" However, my being linguistically gifted is no help.

My little furry alarm clocks ( Cole and Lincoln) have found their voices.

It started with Cole. About a week ago at around 6:30 AM, I could hear low pig whistling. The reason he started doing this is because the pigs get their veggies for the day in the morning. Now that Lincoln has also settled in, it is full blown pig whistling in stereo. Even when we feed the dogs after they go out first thing in the morning, the pig chorus starts. They always have hay, pellets and fresh water; they're never without food.

For those that don't know what guinea pig whistling sounds like: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k9uhf7ZyeN0

Keto requires high fat, not lean protein. Cutting sugar is definitely a good thing, remember that even veggies have sugar. Everything tastes better since I cut my sugar intake, so maybe you'll find that too!

Went on a day trip with a friend the other day with my fancy hat. It's a fancy hat cos it wasn't my battered old cap! Throughout the entire day I only spotted like 3 people with hats on. It was a lonely existence, wearing a hat in town when no one else was wearing one. Safety 101 y'all - grey skies doesn't mean the sun won't get you!

It's mainly the sugar that's my point of contention for me. I wasn't going for keto, but the diet I was going for was higher vegetables and protein, lower sugar and carbs.

I initially told them in gastroenterology "To quote Adam Savage after the Pop Rocks and soda experiment 'I can't imagine a human consuming that much crap...well, maybe I can..." If you're wondering..." But this is not to say this is average.

We usually take time for a dinner with veggies and chicken that is essentially a deconstructed primavera. We used to eat it a lot more often in Washington State.

I am currently working on chemistry to find a plant-based sugar substitute that can replace HFCS with something that doesn't have a calorie count and taste like sugar because let's face it, I had a pen pal friend who was on the crazy side and had an addiction to corn syrup. It was scary, even 10 years ago.

Eventually I received a letter from the family to halt communication because I was considered "a bad influence to their 40 something daughter..." Keep in mind I was in my early 20s, so this was ego-crushing.

But in any case, I am trying to utilize sugar substitutes sourced from plants. I am learning the finer points of culinary science. Especially since I have been learning to cook rice and shape creatures made of steamed rice.

It's not so much wanting to use keto friendly for keto itself, mainly to cut the sugar down.

I should mention that diabetes\prediabetes runs in my family so the more I can halt such a fate from the consumption of sugar, fat and salt aggravating it, the better. My aunt (the one who spoils me rotten) is diabetic and requires dialysis. My mother said she would gladly give up a kidney for her (so far, no match 😕)

But in all honesty, I am trying to make changes. I get my grocery stipend today and I have to buy food for Monday's cookout (my dad has to work at Walmart on the 4th of July this year. His location is somewhat understaffed.)

It is hot and sticky. Gross!

I ordered a booked called My Best Friend's Exorcism along with a couple of others so I would have some spooky reads going into fall. No sooner did I finish my order and the power went out. How ironic.

The power wasn't out long enough for the generator to click on ( there is a 10 second delay) but the paper shredder scared Chica as apparently I didn't shut it off when I was done with budgeting stuff this morning.

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Good news! My formerly purple legs are now wonderfully tanned, so I'm not dying (yet)!

Just take it slow. Cutting out sugar completely after having eaten a lot just gives you withdrawal symptoms and is not sustainable. Fruit is still better than sugar, so try to eat fruit when you have sweet cravings, try to reduce processed food and condiments (it contains a lot of sugar and salt) and reduce or take off one thing at a time until you are used to it and then go for the next. Stay with carbs at the beginning but maybe reduce the amount per meal and replace that part with vegetables or protein. Replace with potatoes instead of rice more often and then reduce that. It's easier to reduce carbs once you're more used to more complex carbs.
Good luck!

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Battle of the overgrown children.

Of course Maxis had to stick their nose in the middle of all the Twitter drama. As usual, they were late to the scene. Everything is 'functional' again for the time being in Twitter Land.



Buh-bye, Maxis. Dealing with one man-child is enough. I have no reason to add Mark Zuckerberg and Tic-Tac-Talk to the list. A person can't make this stuff up.

I woke up this morning just feeling... disinterested. Like I just don't care. I'm getting so tired of being a Mum, it all just feels like my whole day is just kids. I wake up, I wake them up, I take the child to school, I spend a few hours trying to potty train the toddler... which is basically me just spraying disinfectant on my carpet every hour or so while repeating "no we do wee wee on the potty", pick kid up from school, come home, feed kids snacks, husband comes home, he feeds the kids dinner while I attempt to read a book or play Sims while the kids continuously bug me, then it's bedtime - I put the kid to bed which is super emotional and takes hours. Then I'm so exhausted I just go to bed and then at some point husband comes to bed with the baby. We get 0 time to be a couple, 0 time to be ourselves. Its just kids all day long. Doesn't help husband has been picking up extra shifts at work so we haven't had a day off together in a month, maybe longer. I sit around looking forward to his half days and then they get wasted on shopping and errands and just... everything. Everything is so boring and bland and I'm just so fucking bored.

The Twitter thing was short-lived. In the few days I had a account, I spent more time muting or blocking stupid shit from my feed rather than 'enjoying' the handful of people I was following. Apparently I'm missing the whole "great thing" or things about social media because nope. I don't care about what people do when they're drunk, endless retweets that say the same thing over and over again, Tesla, crap on the news, blah, blah, blah.

Nauseous, stressed and just worried about life in general.

I am miserable and otherwise tired.

I signed up for other accounts I had yet to use like Pillowfort and a familiar one like Tumblr.

This is in the event of Twitter ending.

Well. That was a long day. So my friend put up a status on fb saying she was going to commit suicide. I called her a few times but couldn't reach her, so I called the ambulance and my husband came out of work and drove to hers to make sure she was okay and sat with her while the ambulance came. She's doing okay now. We didnt ask if she had taken anything, we just know they took her to hospital and that she's doing okay.


Tomorrow my husband has court, we called the court and they said the police still haven't sent their evidence thing and to call them directly, which hes been trying to do all week and we still haven't heard anything. So we have no idea tomorrow if they'll take his licence or if it's just a first appearance and he goes to a crown court or what. Literally not a clue and the court doesn't know either. It turns out the medication he's on can mess up a drug test... but also he can't just plead not guilty on those grounds because he was in possession. But we don't know HOW he was in possession. We've been trying to think if anyone could have dropped something in the car and we didn't notice? But we can't think of anyone at all. We don't even know if it was found in the car or what because the police won't tell us. We have no idea what to do and we're just kinda freaking out. I guess today kinda reminded us how important it was that in an emergency, one of us has a licence. Maybe I'll have to get over my fear of driving.

For now, all husband can do is write a letter to the judge explaining the circumstances, his medical record and why he needs his licence and hope they go easy on him... if he's even allowed to give it to the judge?

So. It went well. 1 year suspended licence (which was the minimum they could give) and £450 fine payed in £50 installments (again, minimum they could give), the possession charges were dropped and he won't have to retake his test when he gets back on the road. The Judge believed him that he hadn't been smoking but said he still had to give a sentence because he was still technically over the limit even if he wasn't aware and that if he's on that medication again he should be more careful because even if he is around second-hand smoke (which is what we think happened because our neighbours use to smoke a lot out back and it would stink up our house) it would come up positive because the medication absorbs it or something?

The possession charges still seem fishy. They never explained why they were dropped... or why they were even there to begin with? My friend thinks they just dropped it in there because he was over the limit so they thought they could.

Anyway, so now I have to get the bus at like 6am for work tomorrow morning but at least husband doesn't have a criminal record.

Also, I got a new canvas free of charge after the post woman threw my last one in the bin. It arrived today!

Turned out my nausea and stress was just part of my period, which ended recently.

I colored my blonde ombre streaks red with the XMONDO Color Conditioner.

It's perfectly colored, but it stank to high heaven with the sandalwood fragrance.

Japanese Cherry Blossoms, Jasmine Flowers and Bergamot, I can handle but the Sandalwood had me gagging. It was heavily perfumed so it was even worse with that miasmatic cloud. Had to ventilate the bathrooms (mine and the water closet) and the kitchen after rinsing it out.

Otherwise, it's excellent for bright color.

Chica had her 6 month seizure check-in / check-up today. She loves going to the vet so she acts like crazy Boston Terrier while she's there. She wiggles, licks, acts like she's never seen a human before. I don't bother telling them that she acts like a bump on a log for the most part when she's home because they never believe me. Our Jack Russell was the same way; they didn't believe me when I told them about her chill while home either.

Everything is good for the time being. We'll continue to give her meds once a day and keep tabs on things as we have been. She still doesn't have a technical diagnosis of epilepsy as her seizures are roughly 5 months apart. In order to get that diagnosis, she would have to have a seizure once a month and or have more seizures that last more than 2 minutes. That 2 minutes is the seizure itself, not the time leading up to the seizure or post seizure. I'm not wishing to get to that point just so I can 'officially' say she has epilepsy.

Other than that, it has been a day. I was rudely woken up by leg cramps from hell, so I spent my time before sunrise sitting in front of Lightroom and Photoshop. I love both programs, but they are a total time sink for me. I'll play around with things for what I think is a hour and it will end up being 2 hours and more. I've been digging out all the sim pics to breathe some life into them. Speaking of sims, trying to install TS3 on Windows 11 sucks. I bought a new computer the other day which is whatever, but I didn't know how much of a PITA it was going to be trying to install a game onto it. After trying to get the game to run for 8 hours ( between loads of laundry, walking dogs, ect..) yesterday I had to walk away from it before I broke something. Today is new day and I'm back at it again. I'm determined to make it work. Why? I don't know. I guess my pixel people mean more to me than I think they do.