I'm not a doctor nor do I pretend to be one, but I think my mother had a stroke.

It has been a few weeks since mother and I last spoke. I called to check in yesterday, it was pulling teeth trying to find out what was going on. My mother and I have a good relationship. The only time I have to poke at her for information is when she's trying to 'protect me' from something. In this case, she doesn't want me losing sleep over her not feeling well. I digress.

She brought up that she was having issues with numbness and tingling. I asked how long has this been going on for; she told me a month. I won't go through all the questions and answers, but basically all stuff is happening on one side of her body. She has been to the doctors twice. The first doctor told her to stop sleeping on her right side. She went again yesterday; they put her on medication. Next up is a MRI although I don't know when.

2023 needs to fuck.off.

I did in fact survive the cousin's (and his kids) invasion and while it was nice to catch up with the cousin, it was decidely not pleasant hosting those awful children. I know I was contrary as a child, but not like that man! Those children were actual beasts! The parentals 100% regretted letting them stay over instead of shoving them off to a hotel or airbnb. So guess who's probably not allowed back anytime soon

A more recent ugh is that I got some actual good news today but its ruining all my carefully scheduled plans I was so proud of organising it all and now it's not gonna happen. Glad I can get my money back from cancelling my bookings, but still! Clearly, I still need to learn when to shut up sometimes. Anyway, what's the opposite of skyrocket? Cos my mood did that but like in the opposite direction.

3-hour exhausting shopping trip (groceries, etc., nothing that's the least bit exciting), and when I get home there's a small spider in a wall crack playing peekaboo (already tried vacuuming it up twice, it's not budging).

Me and my friend were suspected to be loitering teens (lol) at a department store so we went to the watch section and asked if replacement straps for my friend's watch were still sold there. The answer was yes when the borrowed her watch, and after that they elft us alone.

Technical problems at a different store happened. After paying at a self service machine the machine was like no you didn't, so no receipt. I know I paid cos both the pin machine and my phone said so. I asked an employee and while waiting other customers started having the same problem. 10 ish minutes later everyone got a proper receipt except me. I got some other kind that I got only shows the store, machine, date/time, and total but no barcode so no returns possible. Good thing my items were not things i'd need to return.

Worn out and the power was out for about 80 minutes in the middle of the night. I was working on flags for my island's subregions when it happened.

My parents asked me a week ago what kind of cake I wanted for my birthday and I wanted to try a cotton candy cake-like dessert I saw online.

This week, they asked me about what I wanted for a gift and they joked "Real estate" because I had been in talks about creating a micronation.

Maybe if they ask about dinner, I would say "tamagoyaki-zushi" (sweet omelette sushi) because last year, they forgot to make it with my annual sushi platter.

It usually costs $100+ to make at a store. But being that it's labor that is for the cost, my father makes it for about $25 in the long run, but he doesn't charge me as I don't have money until Sundays, my new paydays.

I'm just tired of the constant grind. Of seeing my husband briefly. He works 5 days, I work the other 2. By the time he gets home its late and we make dinner and then the kids bedtime routine, and because the older one is on summer break it's caused our routine to break down so bedtime is lasting HOURS. We start at 9 (which I know is late but thats a whole other can of worms) but they're both still awake at 11 and then I'm waking up at 2am realising I've fallen asleep in her bed before sneaking off to mine. Even before school holidays, she was still fighting bedtime until 10 and I barely saw my husband. The baby is going through that needs-a-nap-but-not stage, which is KILLING us. He fights a nap for hours, because he's still tired, but if he does nap then he's gonna be awake until 2am. But if he doesn't nap, he falls asleep around 7pm and then treats it as a nap and is awake by 10pm until 2am anyway. Basically there is no winning. I'm tired. Nothing works. Everything sucks. I feel like I'm at breaking point. Husband has some annual leave booked for the end of this month, so we can finally sort the house out because I can only clean so much. We need carpets, and wallpaper, and we've decided to ditch the livingroom carpet and get laminate instead, because it's just so damaged from the previous owners if I walk over it in cleans socks, they turn brown and smell, no matter how much carpet cleaner we use. But the only problem with doing up the house on his time off is that its MORE work to be doing, rather than spending time together. I'm gonna get saddled with the kids while he gets everything done. Ugh I'm tired.

Yesterday was a bit of a good/bad situation.

Bad: Barely slept and had to get up early
Good: Waffles for breakfast
Bad: First day of work after my vacation
Good: Good colleagues at work (a lot of the ones I enjoy working with)
Bad: My back hurt really bad well before lunchtime
Good: Waffles for lunch
Bad: A wasp breaking up the good mood at lunch
Good: They had cotton candy grapes at the store (those are amazing!)
Bad: Was tired most of the day
Good: several days off before going back to work
Bad: Well, of course my boss snuck a meeting into one of my days off (half expected it)

I woke up, got dressed and saw there was chocolate chip brioche bread. Absolutely hate chocolate chips in my bread.

Picking them out won't help. It's already contaminated.

🤬

Instantly, my Sunday was going to be a shit day.

An important legal document for my husband went to my old address so I had to contact the landlord and she's being... her usual self. Clearly the past 3 months haven't been kind to her.

She won't let husband pick it up
She won't pass it on to a neighbour
We gave her a forwarding address she can give our mail too, but this isn't our address. So she won't. She said she will only send it to our address we live at. So thats a fun battle.

Honestly thought once I moved out I wouldn't have to deal with her again, but she's finding excuse after excuse.

Mom is in "Want to clean / throw away things" mode. She's also in "disturb *me*" mode. She's been in those modes the past couple hours.

I'm not in the first mode, not the least bit. I'd also rather not be disturbed every 2 minutes.

Go figure

The fact I am on thin ice with my parents over housekeeping. I have been given one last chance to get the house cleaned up before they return from work tomorrow. (They have been off since Sunday and normally, my mom is at work on Wednesday and dad is at work on Tuesday, but we came down with flu like symptoms that slowed us down.)

Update 8/24/2023:
I finished all of today's chores before my parents are even done with their day. I get to relax.

Windows.

Use understandable language, for goodness sake! Trying to edit some settings, and the activate/deactivate settings apparently need a University degree in English. Or maybe they're done like this to confuse people.

"Activate/Allow setting OR Deactivate setting" - You want to turn it off, needs to be set to "deactivated" to be deactivated. OK so far.
"Deactivate/do not allow/stop setting" - You want to turn it off, but it needs to be set to "activated" to be deactivated.
"Activate/allow setting" - you want to turn it off, and most likely it needs to be set to "activated" to be deactivated, but the description is really vague, and suddenly the thing you tried to deactivate is activated, even though it wasn't before.
... and so on.
I have to read the text for every single item to understand what they're trying to say, and even then I'm confused.

What happened to
"Activate setting" sentence = choose between activate OR deactivated mode?

Also by chance found OneDrive's "Save Documents on OneDrive as Standard" setting, which I turned off, just as a precaution. That one is okay, but the others on the list are the "I'm not entirely sure what they mean" kind, so I think I'll just leave those alone...

Is it by any chance services.msc?

Nah, it's another (but sincerely, how many places do they need to put things to run them on a computer?)
Pretty much everything Windows is like this. I'm absolutely sure they do it to confuse people...

Found out a thing about a thing and its gonna be maximum effort so it's super ugh cos like does it really have to??? Can it just like not? It's totally a first world problem and and complaining is a necessity or else I wouldn't be me

It's definitely spider season again. Had one crawling silently on the wall just a couple or so hours ago, so stealthily I only saw a grey blur slowly moving on the wall, out of the corner of my eye.

Then, just now, I saw something greyish stealthily try to hide under my duvet. Barely caught a glimpse of it. At the moment it's trapped under an upturned tea plate, until I've decided what to do with the rascal.

Both were (legs included) about the size of the palm of my hand (without fingers). At least the big ones don't move as fast as the small ones - they're easier to capture...

Turns out there was a third and (a bit later) a fourth spider in the bathroom, too (but those weren't my problem).

EDIT: Past couple of days it feels like I'm seeing movement out of the corners of my eyes all the time. Stupid spiders...

Ugh. Ex-landlord issues.

So the police wanted to charge her with theft and mail tampering, but she's now claiming she never got it, and because it can't be proven - sadly she can't be charged. They have still put it down in their system, because they say while they can't prove it, they're pretty sure she has it, also lmao she was apparently very uncooperative, screamed down the phone at the police and told them they didn't know how to do their job... so. Kinda funny. But also I'm scared because it's my husband's DBS (I dunno what that is in American, but basically it shows if he has a criminal record that would stop him working with vulnerable people) so he desperately needs it and I doubt his job is going to wait much longer for it.

I received a set of 5 25mm 10-Disc Blu-Ray cases to put my backups in.

Two discs go in one case, that case disappeared, next I'm swearing a blue streak and screaming like Shan-Yu in Mulan whenever he realized he lost when I tried to look in my room, which not even pigs would touch my disheveled swirling vortex of entropy.

I ended up making a second set of backups (I only had 2 discs) and kept the remaining 4 cases close by in a combination locked box.

I was screaming because I don't really have much money to work with each week after I do housekeeping and dental hygiene procedures with an autobrush as recommended for my problem with standard toothbrushes and their electric counterparts were uncomfortable.

The scream was mostly because it cost me my allowance to organize the backups with Blu-Rays and special cases. I may consider downsizing the used space in my room soon.

(To be fair, I only get $39 on a perfect week. Odd, yes. I'm much aware.)

I eventually found that missing Blu-Ray Case, but there's a power outage in my county, so I am using the mobile data to use the Internet.

I am also nervous about my party attendence to see my grandpa turn 95.

Today my ex-landlady emailed me to sue me for £3,000+ so that's fun. Apparently I have until the 17th or she'll take me to small claims court. Dont get me wrong, the house wasn't in great condition when we left, we had 2 kids so I'm sure there's probably crayon somewhere on a wall, the dog had scratched at the front door etc. £3k worth of damage though? No. But I don't even know if I still have pictures from the house when I moved in, so I'm sure that's gonna fk me over.

She has to expect wear and tear, she's a bit loopy!

She is. Like I understand if she wants some of the deposit, because a kid peeled off some of the laminate on a cupboard, the dog had scratched a bit of the front door (within 6 months of us moving in, we agreed to get an American style postbox to avoid any further damage and kept that area covered with a curtain so the dog couldn't see if someone was at the door) etc... but... £3611 + deposit (£650)... that seems like a LOT of damage. I'm guessing she's trying to claim for things that have been like that since we moved in, the previous tenant (her mother) had kept several indoor cats so the carpet stunk of cat pee and every door had scratch marks on etc. She's basically redoing the house on my hard earned penny, and I doubt there's anything I can really do about it tbh. This mostly just seems like retaliation because we had to call the police on her last week.

Did she just email you to tell you she was going to sue you, or was there some kind of legal document? If it was just an email, I'd be tempted to report it to the police, as if she keeps threatening you like this, it could amount to harassment. Gives you a record of it.
If she actually was suing you then there should be a legal letter.

Just an email...

Dear Landcunt,

Could you please give me a breakdown of how the sum of £3,611.96 was reached?

I would also like a copy of the images you have of the condition of the house prior to my occupation, and the damages you allege that I have caused.

Regards,
Bigsimsfan12